The process...

 This whole process began because I experienced my friend's addiction first hand.  I realized not only did i find the use of cigarettes so disgusting but that my friend was at a point where if something major didn't happen she probably would continue procrastinating and delaying the day she would quit.

So I felt and decided as a friend I should do something.  The only thing I can do is chose to let her know how I felt about her smoking, how negatively it affects me and our relationship, and that I was no longer going to be able to be around her or behave in a way that ignored this unhealthy behavior any longer.

I was willing to do all I can to help her quit, but not willing to ignore this self destruction.  I set a date which was reasonable ( 30 days)  and told her if by that time she could not commit to a date to discuss a plan then I would not be able to talk or interact with her any longer until she was ready to set a date to plan how she would carry out her smoking cessation.

Yes this is extreme, but she has always said she wanted to quit and I know it would have only gotten harder with each day so why not now!?

I was prepared to follow through with my word and I did.  It worked ...there were and are many reasons to quit but for her to know I cared that much and was willing to do a lot of work with her in order to help gave her the immediate and added incentive to put the plan in motion.  YEAH!!!!